I coach people through the process of "purging". I've been told that just my presence alone has helped these individuals finally make a choice. Keep. Don't Keep. Shred. Donate. TRASH. And oh how liberating the trash CAN, can be. Even the word encompasses self empowerment.
You can throw out what isn't working for you anymore. The thing is, we don't think we can and understanding this folly is the our first step toward change. Changing our minds, to be more exacting. Our mind is the problem. Did you know that? Well, it is.
One of my favorite quotes is; "If you think you can, you can." ~Meryl Streep.
It worked for her didn't it? She must have thought eons ago; I can be an actress. I can be a very successful one too! And viola! Oh but it's not that easy.
Meryl Streep was turned down for a role in King Kong and was actually told by the casting director that she wasn't pretty enough. "You're not pretty enough." someone once said to MERYL STREEP.
Flash forward, three Oscars later, I don't think she cares. I don't think she ever did. Not enough to stop her. And that's my message to you. Don't give into those thoughts (pretend they're sociopathic casting directors in your head) telling you that you're not worthy of a home - of space. Of love and comfort. Success. Structure. Balance. Beauty.
Letting go starts in your mind. If you think you can let it go, you can. If you think you can't, then change your mind. You can do anything. You are that capable. You are that worthy.
Just give yourself time. Time is all we have. It doesn't mean it's going to be easy. It just means you're willing to see how it goes, with time. Life is weird enough as it is, we don't need to put unreasonable pressure on our self. We do need to put a plan together though, or just create some options for reducing the chaos. Self help books work wonders. Positive self talk. Good surroundings. Youtube. Meryl Streep movies. ME.
Life is chaotic. We need a plan for action because we don't need to feel any that non-sense in our home. Home is where the heart is and the heart is where you are. Keep it simple. Un-complicate the complicated by making a choice each day to face your shit. Because why? Because it'll be less shit you have to face tomorrow. And less in MORE. It's more wonderful.
Just LET GO. Clutter is not just stuff. Clutter can be emotional. It can be trauma caused by people. It can be a relationship where someone is filling a space you don't have room for anymore. It's someone you've outgrown because they're not developing with you - meeting your needs, thriving with you somewhere in the middle. This takes from you your self worth and your time. You energy. Your life.
Take it back because... you can.